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This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved one, Ryan W. Foley who was born in Connecticut on April 06, 1988 and passed away on April 11, 2006 at the age of 18. We will remember him forever. Ryan was a young man that enjoyed life, family, friends, sports and cars.  Ryan was a loving son but most of all a loving brother of his younger sister Kaitlyn and younger brother Kyle.  Ryan was special especially to those people who were not as well off as he was.  This was demonstrated in elementary school when a teacher called to inform us that Ryan included in both recess and lunchroom activities a wheelchair bound child.  This continued through the rest of his young life as demonstrated by his very diverse group of friends that attended his wake and funeral.  Always quick with a smile or a hello that brought many smiles to the faces he encountered on a daily basis. Ryan will never know the impact he had on so many people and all the good he has done even in his short time on earth.  I wish I could tell you how much you are missed by your friends and how much we miss you and how very proud we are of you.  Love Dad, Mom, Kaitlyn and Kyle

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Miss you!   / Bobby Pilatti (Friend)
I miss you bud. Even after all this time has passed since you left I still think about you everyday and miss ya and all the fun times we had!
Happy Birthday   / Mom
Hard to believe that today we celebrate your 29th birthday - more than anything I wish that you were here to celebrate with us so that we could see that beautiful smirk and have one of your great bear hugs but I know that you will live on in our...  Continue >>
  / Bobby Pilatti
Love you bud! Miss you like crazy! Aiden started hockey this year. Seeing that #4 every weekend in the rafters still gives me goosebumps. Think of all those days we spent there. All the fun we had. Those were the days! I'd do anything to have 1 of th...  Continue >>
You should be here   / Anonymous
It's perfect outside it's like God let me dial up the weather Got the whole crew here, I ain't seen some of them in forever. It's one of those never forget it, better stop and take it in kinda scenes. Everything's just right yeah except for one th...  Continue >>
If I knew....   / Uncle Chris
If I knew you were leaving.... I would have asked for one more smile If I knew you were leaving.... I would have taken one more hug If I knew you were leaving.... I would have wanted one more laugh If I knew you were leaving.... I would have w...  Continue >>
Today / Uncle Chris     Read >>
Celebrate / Uncle Chris     Read >>
Thanksgiving / Mom     Read >>
maybe today  / SG     Read >>
Tribute to a great role model  / Tanner Popick (Mentored by Ryan )    Read >>
Thank you  / Mom     Read >>
Happy Birthday  / Mom     Read >>
Missing you.  / Corinne     Read >>
Merry Christmas  / Dad (Father)    Read >>
Merry Christmas Angel  / Mom     Read >>
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His legacy
Tribute to My Nephew  
In Tribute to My Nephew

Good morning, despite the resemblance I am the Uncle!

I would like to take this opportunity to thank you for all of your tremendous outpouring of support shown to both the Foley and the O’Brien families. You have truly provided volumes of comfort with even the simplest of gestures. It has been a huge testament to my nephew as to the kind of person he was, the kind of young man my brother and sister-in-law raised.
I am speaking today on behalf of his aunts and uncles. Thoughts and memories that are not just mine but ours. Ryan William Foley, a beautiful boy, had a special place in my heart for no other reason than he just wormed his way in there and took root. There were things about him in the beginning, which got ya—he had the most expressive eyes, incredible grin, later to be known as ‘the smirk,’ a smile that would light up a room and a need to be involved. You guys remember when he was 18 months or so, how he would run as though he had swim fins on and then just flop to his knees. He would do this anytime he wanted to be involved. That was Ryan he just wanted in!! Whatever was going on at the time it was life and Ryan wanted right in the middle of it. That never changed. Ryan had a zest for life and a need to be deep in it. He loved it even more when aunts, uncles, brother, sister or cousins were involved……he shined even more at those times.

He was good natured and fun loving. He loved to try and put one over on you. More times then not, the smirk, formerly known as the grin, usually led him to success. Not with his Uncle Chris though. We shared a sign when he would try to put one over on me, it simply meant, “I see you and thru you.” When that happened the smirk would turn into a smile……….I loved that smile…….

A little story to show you how nobody was beyond his humor. Last year, I was bringing my daughter’s violin to the school office and there was Ryan with 3 of his buddies sitting outside the auditorium leaning against the railings. I hear “Hi Uncle Chris,” I said “hey Ryan.” Then I hear him say, “That’s my genetic half dad.” One of the boys snaps his head around and says, “But he’s your uncle too!” We just looked at each other and he gave me the sign and we laughed. I then said, “You want your violin or you want me to bring it to the office?” The kid snaps his head around again at him and says, “Violin?” Without missing a beat Ryan says, “No I’ll pick it up later in the office.” I said, “Ok, now get your genetic half son butt back to class!” Ryan smiled and said, “I’m on break!” “Love you Uncle Chris!” “Love you too bud.” When I returned Ryan was gone. No doubt he had to help that poor kid to class.

Ryan wasn’t the best in math but he had everybody’s number! He knew what buttons to push to get you, and then take it all away with his smile.

He wasn’t the best in English but he was a great communicator, he did that so perfectly with his eyes, his smile and his love. 

Ryan was not the best in history but he was great at making it. I believe that “it is not the quantity of lives touched that matters but the quality in which you touch them.” Ryan was a very rare individual who did both.

So in life, Ryan wasn’t the best student, but he was a great teacher. He taught us that it is not the grades left behind in the classroom that matter, but the grades left behind in our heart that matters most…….A+ Ryan, A+!

Jim and Karin, we all wish we could take away your pain but we cannot. We will be there however to love you. Ryan was a beautiful boy with a beautiful heart. I love you both.

Kaitlyn and Kyle, Ryan loved you both so very much. He was proud to be the big brother and proud of you both. We will all be there for you, family and friends, to provide a living memorial to the lives your big brother touched. I love you both.

To you his friends and classmates, count yourselves among the lucky ones that you knew Ryan at all. Weep only for those who never will. Live and love as he did, and you will live his tomorrows.

To his teammates both town and high school. Take into your hearts that you shared and were a part of some of the happiest moments he had here on earth. Hold onto that. It will provide you strength and comfort.

To all of you especially Ryan’s close friends, my brother and his family will need a little time to decompress, as will you all. But after, do stop by and don’t be afraid to talk about Ryan for that way he will always live on and not just in our hearts. It is time to move on, and live again and remember a beautiful boy, a beautiful spirit named Ryan William Foley.

In closing……….an Irish blessing………

Remembered Joy
Don’t grieve for me, for now I’m free!
I follow the plan God laid for me.
I saw His face, I heard His call,
I took his hand and left it all…
I could not stay another day,
To love, to laugh, to work or play;
Tasks left undone must stay that way.
And if my parting has left a void,
Then fill it with remembered joy.
A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss…
Ah yes, these things I, too, shall miss.
My life’s been full, I’ve savored much:
Good times, good friends, a loved one’s touch.
Perhaps my time seemed all too brief—
Don’t shorten yours with undue grief.’
Be not burdened with tears of sorrow,
Enjoy the sunshine of the morrow.
(Author Unknown)

So, sometime today, this week or next, look up facing the sun. For when you do, you will feel the warmth of both Ryan’s love and his smile shining down upon you.
Ryan William Foley, Forever 18, Forever loved, Never forgotten, Forever going ‘Top Shelf.’

I love you Ryan, Hope I did you proud.
Ryan's burial service  
Ryan I wrote this for your burial service:

For years as Ryan grew up, I attended many different events both social and sporting and was introduced as Ryan’s dad or asked if I was Ryan’s dad. After the last few days seeing what my son has accomplished and the profound impact he has had on so many people in his short 18 years that he has lived his life, I state with great pride that “Ryan is my son.” I have always been proud of the way he would just go about his life and take challenges head on. He did this both in school and out. Ryan opened his heart to anyone no matter what race, gender or ethnicity he loved all he met. I always tried to teach Ryan “You treat people the way you want to be treated.” It is obvious from his death that he has mastered this beyond reproach. God bless the many lives “My Son Ryan” has touched as well as those he had not yet met. I hope the way Ryan has lived his life, has taught all of us how important it is to treat people we meet. I know that he has taught me so much more than I could ever imagine. I must now try to meet and exceed his standard of living.
Yes, Ryan is my son. Love always & 4ever Dad

FOLEY, Ryan W. Ryan William Foley, 18, of South Windsor, loving son of James H. and Karin (O'Brien) Foley, tragically passed away on Tuesday (April 11, 2006) from injuries sustained in an automobile accident. Born on April 6, 1988 in Hartford he had been a life-long resident of South Windsor. He was a student at South Windsor High School where he was a member of the Senior Class of 2006. While at South Windsor High School, Ryan was a member of the Varsity Ice Hockey team for the past three years. Ryan was well liked by his teammates and classmates and would place the team and others above himself. Ryan played many years for South Windsor Youth Hockey Association where he volunteered his time in helping younger players develop their talents. Ryan enjoyed playing baseball as he played many years for South Windsor Little League through their Senior League. In addition to playing team sports, Ryan also enjoyed playing golf and working on cars. Many others saw his love for cars as he was planning on going to school to develop a trade in auto mechanics. Besides his devoted and loving parents, Ryan is survived by his beloved sister, Kaitlyn T. Foley and his brother and best buddy, Kyle J. Foley, both at home in South Windsor. He also leaves his paternal grandparents, John J., and Florence (Genlot) Foley of Manchester; maternal grandmother, Solvieg (Tucker) O'Brien of Glastonbury; Uncle Christopher Foley and his wife, Paula, and their children, Marissa, Andrew, Christopher, and Patrick, of South Windsor; Uncle John Foley and his wife, Shelley, and their daughter, Charlotte, of North Carolina; Aunt Lynne Foley of Manchester; Uncle Kevin O'Brien and his wife, Susan, and their children, Timothy and Kaleigh, of Vernon; Uncle Keith O'Brien and his wife, Joy, and their children, Sean and Paige, of South Windsor; Uncle Kreg O'Brien and his wife, Robin, and their children, Austin, Connor and Braeden, of Colchester; Great Aunts, Sharon Tucker, Mary O'Brien, Sandra Christensen and her husband, Ted, Sheila Nelson, Shirley English; his adopted uncles, Justin Kelley, Russ Stevens, Robert Peasley, and Rich Bond; his loving girlfriend, Ashley Burger of Coventry; special friends, Chris, Cam, Josh, and Eric all of South Windsor; and many other dear friends. His grandfather, Bill O'Brien of Glastonbury, and his cousin, Matthew Foley, predeceased Ryan. Ryan was fun loving and had a zest for life and touched many lives in his eighteen years, and he will be missed by all who knew him, especially his teammates who he considered his second family. Ryan's final act was to give the gift of life to others in need, through donation of his tissue.

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